the fact that a girl being a feminist is a turn off to a lot of guys is just further proof that sexism exists they’re literally saying they don’t want a girl who requires respect because that’s just no fun
Or that the meaning of feminism has become drastically warped in the public mindset by radfems who proclaim the evilness of men, and the superiority of women in all things.
Anonymous asked: Thanks, that means a lot. I'm interested to see where it goes as it's a first for me and a little outside what I'd normally consider but I seem to be fine with it which I find bizarre, maybe it's because the other person is really kind and patient and understanding and damn it I wish the age gap between us wasn't so large...
Why do you wish that about the age gap? Is it simply about how other people view the relationship?
Anonymous asked: Yeah they are lovely and we are both being careful, we've said that at the moment its purely friends with benefits but if something develops then we'll deal with it. It doesn't really even bother me that they have other partners that they have fun with.
^.^ Well I hope it works out long term for you!
Anonymous asked: Guess I'm just looking for someone who won't judge me for doing what I'm doing and won't point out that I'm wrong in the head or need help, just find myself in a purely sex-based relationship/friends with benefits/no strings attached whatever you want to call it and I don't mind at all. It doesn't even phase me that's he is 15 years older than me (I'm legal don't worry), we still kiss and snuggle and get on well just as friends but the sex element is good as well as the freedom. Anyways thanks
As long as the relationship involves communication about what you both want and what you don’t want, then there’s no judgement from me, whoever you are.
Anonymous asked: Do you think its wrong for someone to be in a purely sexual relationship, like a friends with benefits situation?
As long as both agree that that’s what the relationship is, and start talking when either of them wants to stop it or take it further. Then it’s all good in my book.
Imagine you have a Rolex watch. Nice fancy Rolex, you bought it because you like the way it looks and you wanted to treat yourself. And then you get beaten and mugged and your Rolex is stolen. So you go to the police. Only, instead of investigating the crime, the police want to know why you were wearing a Rolex instead of a regular watch. Have you ever given a Rolex to anyone else? Is it possible you wanted to be mugged? Why didn’t you wear long sleeves to cover up the Rolex if you didn’t want to be mugged?
And then after that, everywhere you go, there are constant jokes about stealing your Rolex. People you don’t even know whistle at your Rolex and make jokes about cutting your hand off to get it. The media doesn’t help either; it portrays people who wear Rolexes as flamboyant assholes who secretly just want someone to come along and take that Rolex off their hands. When damn, all you wanted was to wear a nice watch without getting harassed for it. When you complain that you are starting to feel unsafe, people laugh you off and say that you are too uptight. Never mind you got violently attacked for the crime of wearing a friggin time piece.
Imagining all that? It sucks, doesn’t it.
Now imagine you could never take the Rolex off. — The Wretched of the Earth: On Rape Culture (via exoticwild)